25 So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. 26 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.”Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil. (Ephesians 4:25 – 27 NLT)
Lying to each other disrupts unity by creating conflicts and destroying trust. It tears down relationships and leads to open warfare in a church.
The Bible doesn’t tell us that we shouldn’t feel angry, but it points out that it is important to handle our anger properly. If vented thoughtlessly, anger can hurt others and destroy relationships. If bottled up inside, it can cause us to become bitter and destroy us from within. Paul tells us to deal with our anger immediately in a way that builds relationships rather than destroys them. If we nurse our anger, we will give the devil an opportunity to divide us. Are you angry with someone right now? What can you do to resolve your differences? Don’t let the day end before you begin to work on mending your relationship. (Tyndal Study Bible)
I think of this principle that Boxers apply. The moment you lose your temper in a boxing match you lost the fight.
I can relate many stories of losing my temper, right at that moment you lose the respect of people around you. You can’t think straight, and you make the wrong decisions. How many times have we spoken about correct choices? Getting angry is certainly not the correct choice.
Have you said this before? It’s not me he/she angered first. A couple of years ago I went through management training. The Title of the course was “Management through people skills.” The most important thing I learned during this program was, in any interaction or communication, you are 50% responsible for the other person’s behavior. So if the other party loses their temper, you are partly to blame for it. They are not alone in it; you have to take some responsibility. The correct choices and words come into play again.
It is just like the choice of telling lies. It is so easy to tell that little white lie. We think it smooths things over, but it actually does not. Just like scripture says it causes damage. When you are caught out lying the people affected are angry. There the circle starts again, by making the correct choices you can prevent all the bad. So don’t give a foothold to the devil.
“Lord I pray for correct choices. Holy Spirit guide me. In Jesus name. Amen.”