“A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends.”
Proverbs 16:28 NLT
Stop! Stop talking negatively about others. If you cannot say something good, then do not say anything. Only perverse and profane persons gossip and backbite. You should abhor the thought of committing rape or murder – but slander or talebearing is both. It violates a person’s reputation instead of his body, and it ruins his joy, peace, and friends. Stop!
Gossiping destroys families, churches, businesses, and friends. A froward man is evil, obnoxious, and unreasonable. He loves to cause division by spreading rumours, innuendos, secrets, or lies about others. If you hate such men, you are in good company, because God hates them.
What men call gossip, the Bible calls backbiting, evil surmising, talebearing, tattling, and whispering. Slander is the spreading of false information in order to defame. Both sins cause strife and trouble, and they divide close friends by telling private facts, forgiven sins, or outright lies about one or both friends.
Never use words to harm someone else unless clearly necessary. If you have a problem with someone, then either overlook it or take care of it with him alone. If you do not fear and hate gossip, remember that God views harmful words as murder.
If you catch a man badmouthing another, stop the sin by an angry response (Pr 25:23). You would use any means to stop a rape or murder, and this crime is related, so respond forcibly to verbal wickedness as well. Do not ever let a backbiter, talebearer, or whisperer get away with their crime in your presence. If you allow and listen to their divisive and perverse insinuations, you are guilty with them. If you clearly identify such a wicked person, get rid of him, because he will only bring you trouble.
Godly men never harm others by divisive words (Ps 15:3). Even if actions are suspicious, they believe and hope all things about that person to avoid thinking evil of them (I Cor 13:4-7). This is the most godly, peaceful, and successful way to live. By choosing to be a peacemaker, you are a true child of God (Mat 5:9; Jas 3:17-18). Purify your heart, and let it produce gracious words at all times to win the favor even of kings (Pr 22:11; Col 4:6). (www.letGodbetrue.com)
Just this last week I caught myself saying, that is an idiot. Have you done that before? What’s more how many of us have a good thing to say about our bosses. Yes, we often just have bad to say. Why go there?
Is the Bible not amazing? All these valuable life lessons. The oldest principle in the Bible is you will reap what you sow. Say bad things and you will receive bad things. Say good things and you will receive good things. I can assure you this is true. Pay careful attention to the scripture and commentary, need I say more.
“Lord, I pray I say right things all the time. Let me be Your light. Amen.”