“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. (1 Corinthians 13:4-5 NLT)”
Our society confuses love and lust. Unlike lust, God’s kind of love is directed outward toward others, not inward toward ourselves. It is utterly unselfish. This kind of love goes against our natural inclinations. It is impossible to have this love unless God helps us set aside our own natural desires so that we can love and not expect anything in return. Thus, the more we become like Christ, the more love we will show to others.
Paul says that love “is not irritable.” Sometimes we’re irritated or angered by others, and we don’t know why. Not all irritability stems from sinful or selfish motives, although the irritable treatment of others surely is wrong. Much irritability comes from a love of perfection, a deep desire that programs, meetings, and structures be run perfectly. A desire to run things perfectly can erupt into anger at events or people who get in the way or ruin that desire. Those who are easily irritated need to remember that perfection exists only in God. We need to love him and our fellow Christians, not the visions we have for perfection here on earth. (Tyndale Study Bible)
The other morning I was listening to the radio, and an article, love was the topic of discussion, and the message clear to me.
You see, love is not a feeling, but rather an action. If you want to be all the things that the scripture declares, you have to set your mind on the right things and get it in the right place. To change your approach, you have to change your mindset. Again, an action.
Sure, it’s easy for the writer to say that we have to become more like Christ, but as we know, it isn’t that simple. Why? Because we are born in sin, unlike Jesus, who was born perfect. However, we can aspire to be like Him. Again I stress I am not perfect and fail often. You have to realise that the only real failure is when you give up entirely. Every day I become better. What I have learnt in the last while is the mindset we approach things with, that will determine the outcome. That thing again, so a man thinks so, is he. If you look at the opposite sex and all you want to be is physical, will you ever get to know the true person? No, you won’t because you approaching things with the wrong mindset.
So I will never give up.
“Lord, I pray that You turn my thoughts into actions. That I will love unconditionally, just as You do. I thank You for the people who love me and see past my faults. In Jesus name. Amen”